When I got divorced 3 years ago, and changed my last name back to my maiden name, I swore I would never change my last name again. Never.
I hate that when I see someone I haven't seen in a while, and they say, "your last name was different then, wasn't it?" There are multiple possibilities for what my last name might have been. There's my last name at birth. My last name when my step-father adopted me in second grade (my current last name), and two married last names have come and gone, with my maiden name making an appearance in the middle.
And despite my confidence in this decision, in Fella, in our ability to make it work, I'm unsure. I mean, of course I'm confident. He's my lobster! Confident, yes. But I'm still wary.
My hesitancy is partially due to the fear that one day I'll have to change it back. Again. Those fears that rear their ugly heads, the remnants of my past, the foundations of my wall.
There's also the whole professional angle, Judges and other attorneys are starting to know me by name and I'm going to go and mess that up? Also, if I keep this name professionally, clients and opposing parties will not be able to find me as easily in the world (by searching property records, etc. YES they do that).
I have to figure this out before I order our Thank You cards....